List of Emotions

Joyful

Tenderness

Helpless

Defeated

Rageful

Cheerful

Sympathy

Powerless

Bored

Outraged

Content

Adoration

Dreading

Rejected

Hostile

Proud

Fondness

Distrusting

Disillusioned

Bitter

Satisfied

Receptive

Suspicious

Inferior

Hateful

Excited

Interested

Cautious

Confused

Scornful

Amused

Delighted

Disturbed

Grief-stricken

Spiteful

Elated

Shocked

Overwhelmed

Helpless

Vengeful

Enthusiastic

Exhilarated

Uncomfortable

Isolated

Disliked

Optimistic

Dismayed

Guilty

Numb

Resentful

Elated

Amazed

Hurt

Regretful

Trusting

Delighted

Confused

Lonely

Ambivalent

Alienated

Calm

Stunned

Melancholy

Exhausted

Bitter

Relaxed

Interested

Depressed

Insecure

Insulted

Relieved

Intrigued

Hopeless

Disgusted

Indifferent

Hopeful

Absorbed

Sad

Pity

Pleased

Curious

Guilty

Revulsion

Confident

Anticipating

Hurt

Contempt

Brave

Eager

Lonely

Weary

Comfortable

Hesitant

Regretful

Bored

Safe

Fearful

Depressed

Preoccupied

Happy

Anxious

Hopeless

Angry

Love

Worried

Sorrow

Jealous

Lust

Scared

Uncertain

Envious

Aroused

Insecure

Anguished

Annoyed

Tender

Rejected

Disappointed

Humiliated

Compassionate

Horrified

Self conscious

Irritated

Caring

Alarmed

Shamed

Aggravated

Infatuated

Shocked

Embarrassed

Restless

Concern

Panicked

Humiliated

Grumpy

Trust

Afraid

Disgraced

Awkward

Liking

Nervous

Uncomfortable

Exasperated

Attraction

Disoriented

Neglected

Frustrated

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List of Cognitive Distortions

All-or-nothing thinking: You see things in black and white categories. If your performance falls short of perfect, you see yourself as a total failure.

Overgeneralization: You see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat.

Mental Filter: You pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it exclusively so that your vision of all reality becomes darkened, like the drop of ink that discolors the entire beaker of water.

Disqualifying the positive: You reject positive experiences by insisting the “don’t count” for some reason or other. You maintain a negative belief that is contradicted by your everyday experiences.

Jumping to conclusions: You make a negative interpretation even though there are no definite facts that convincingly support your conclusion.

Mind reading: You arbitrarily conclude that someone is reacting negatively to you and don’t bother to check it out.

The Fortune Teller Error: You anticipate that things will turn out badly and fell convinced that your prediction is an already-established fact.

Magnification (Catastrophizing) or minimization: You exaggerate the importance of things (such as your goof-up or someone else’s achivement), or you inappropriately shirnk things until the appear tiny (your own desirable qualities or the other fellow’s imperfections). This is also called the “binocular trick”.

Emotional reasoning: You assume that your negative emotions necessarily reflect the way things really are: “I feel it, therefore it must be true.”

Should statements: You try to motivate yourself with shoulds and shouldn’ts, as if you had to be whipped and punished before you could be expected to do anything. “Musts” and “oughts” are also offenders. The emotional consequence is guilt. When you direct should statements toward others, you feel anger, frustration, and resentment.

Labeling and mislabeling: This is an extreme form of overgeneralization. Instead of describing you rerror, you attach a negative label to yourself: “I’m a loser.” When someone else’s behavior rubs you the wrong way, you attach a negative label to him, “He’s a damn louse.” Mislabeling involves describing an event with language that is highly colored and emotionally loaded.

Personalization: You see yourself as the cause of some negative external event for which, in fact, you were not primarily responsible.

Borrowed with permission from Steve Allred, LMFT

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How Having Kids Made Me A Better Sales Person…

Had an epiphany during a workout… so true when they say that the endorphins and blood flow from exercise stimulate new thinking and idea pathways. So after a brief cool down I sat down to document what I was thinking.

Hopefully there’s some wisdom in it for at least a few… it synthesizes a big part of why I’ve had some mega-results inbusiness AND in life the last 2 years.

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Are You “The One”?

After movie night with my oldest son I set down to work for a few hours. But a question lingered… was Agent Smith right? Are humans just big hairy viruses? Are we stuck waiting for “The One” or is he/she already there if we know where to look? I know what I believe… take a listen and maybe you’ll agree. Whether you do or don’t, I want to hear from YOU! Leave a comment here or on my YouTube page…

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Victor Frankl on Success

This idea cannot be understood deeply enough.

“Don’t aim at success-the more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one’s dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one’s surrender to a person other than oneself. Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it. I want you to listen to what your conscience commands you to do and go on to carry it out to the best of your knowledge. Then you will live to see that in the long run-in the long run, I say!-success will follow you precisely because you had forgotten to think of it.”

- Victor Frankl, Man’s Search For Meaning, Foreword to the 1992 Edition

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Do This!

I read this article in Spirit Magazine (Southwest Airlines’ inflight mag) on a flight from Las Vegas to Portland and made a note to watch the 10 videos it refers to once I got where I was going (which apropos of nothing was Eugene, not Portland). I almost tore out the page but decided that to deprive the next passenger of the same list would be against the spirit of the article (ha ha… pun).

Anyway, it was an article about the TED Conference held annually, usually somewhere in California, which if you don’t know is basically a really cool event where intelligent and progressive people get together and share ideas.

The article included the following list of the 10 most popular “TED Talks” of all time, based on number of views on YouTube.

I just got through watching them all and I am brimming with possibility. Seriously, I feel really good. Like somebody hypnotized me and told me I could do or be anything I want to – only I was awake the whole time.

It takes a couple of hours in combined time, and I don’t recommend trying to digest them all in one sitting. But take the time to watch all of these. Even ones you’ve seen before.

You’ll be glad you did.

From Spirit Magazine’s May 2012 issue, article: The Wonders, the Weirdness, the Life Lessons of TED

(Note I’ve also included the actual links to each video on YouTube)

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TOP 10 TEDTalks OF ALL TIME

Color-shifting cephalopods, paper laptops, mathematical stunt work. It’s no wonder these TEDTalks have been viewed on the Web more than any others.

1 Sir Ken Robinson says schools kill creativity

VIEWS 13,003,917*
IN A NUTSHELL Today’s kids are taught to be good workers, not creative thinkers.

LINK

2 Jill Bolte Taylor’s stroke of insight

VIEWS 9,771,988
IN A NUTSHELL A brain researcher’s firsthand, play-by-play account of her own stroke.

LINK

3 Pranav Mistry on the thrilling potential of SixthSense

VIEWS 8,592,722
IN A NUTSHELL Wouldn’t life be grand if a physical gesture produced a digital result? Meet your SixthSense.

LINK

4 David Gallo’s underwater astonishments

VIEWS 7,391,054
IN A NUTSHELL The noted oceanographer introduces his deep sea acquaintances.

(I found 2 links, neither of which have nearly this number of views… but put them together and they certainly seem worthy of the listing…)
LINK
LINK

5 Pattie Maes and Pranav Mistry demo SixthSense

VIEWS 7,265,840
IN A NUTSHELL With SixthSense, interact with the physical world as you would an iPhone.

LINK

6 Tony Robbins asks why we do what we do

VIEWS 5,903,470
IN A NUTSHELL The self-help pioneer riffs on the “invisible forces” that spur us to action.

LINK

7 Simon Sinek on how great leaders inspire action

VIEWS 5,326,190
IN A NUTSHELL The marketing guru draws fascinating parallels between the success of Apple and that of the Wright brothers, and makes the case for why the ingenius TiVo device is a financial bust and why Martin Luther King Jr. inspires forever.

LINK

8 Hans Rosling shows the best stats you’ve ever seen

VIEWS 4,494,897
IN A NUTSHELL
Global trends + colorful bubbles and soaring charts = one heck of a
convincing argument about the prosperity of developing countries.

LINK

9 Arthur Benjamin does mathemagic

VIEWS 4,406,973
IN A NUTSHELL A tuxedo-clad college math professor wows the crowd with his lightning-fast calculations and other seemingly impossible mathematical feats.

LINK

10 Brené Brown on the power of vulnerability

VIEWS 4,275,478

IN A NUTSHELL These 18 minutes of inspiration about human connection might save you 10 years of therapy.

LINK

* Figures as of April 1.

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It’s A Small (Gmail) Thing…

…But aren’t small things often the biggest things? Gmail recently released a new feature that lets you star and label outgoing emails as you send them. So they automatically show up in your filters where you want them.

For me this makes remembering to follow up on important emails way easier… without having to put a note in a calendar or CRM record. But there are hundreds of other ways this is awesome.

Let me know in comments what this feature means for you!

Here’s the link to gmail’s blog. http://gmailblog.blogspot.com/2012/03/star-and-label-messages-before-you-send.html

Enjoy :)

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Important Video Marketing Principle For New Marketers

Driving home from dropping the kids off at school this morning I was blinded by insight.
Or rather the sun… but still I felt like sharing.
Enjoy!

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The Last Lecture

I just recently returned from a wealth conference in Maui. It was a phenomenal event, hosted by a company called Wealth Masters International, where I met some of the top economic minds in the world and got a ton of great information on a variety of matters from the economy to geopolitics to medical breakthroughs to entrepreneurship. Kind of like going to a TED Conference only specifically focused on personal and financial growth.

But as great as the event was, perhaps the most powerful thing I did while in Maui was listen to the audio book of The Last Lecture, by Randy Pausch. If you haven’t read (or listened to) it it’s just something you need to do.

Anyway, on my first morning of listening to it something pretty funny happened. I shot this YouTube video to chronicle it… While watching this video is not going to change you like the book will, you may still get a good laugh out of it like I did.

Enjoy :)

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What The ‘Internet Illuminati’ Isn’t Telling You…

This post is actually an excerpt from an email I sent out recently to members of TopTierIncome.com as well as anyone else who has been on my Internet marketing team in the last 3 years.

It contains some comments that will agitate many people, especially a small but powerful cluster of folks out there who have a strong vested interest in not disrupting the status quo around the online home business industry.

For my part here’s my commitment… I will approve ANY non-spam comment that is left on this post. If I’ve said something in error PLEASE let the world know it (just don’t attach your affiliate link within the comment or it will be auto-flagged as spam).

It has been suggested by a few members of what I half-jokingly refer to as the “Internet Illuminati” that comments on my last post were being censored, given that of the 24 comments received at last count 100% of them trended in support of my comments.

Hard to believe that the truth resonates with people, huh? :)

Anyway if any of this strikes your fancy and you want to take the next step of turning it into action (and profits) you can do so here (long version/sales letter) or here (quick sign-up/homepage).

So here’s the email excerpt (I’ve omitted the portions of the email that are only relevant to system members):

I am sending this email to all current TopTierIncome.com members as well as all current and previous members of my marketing team over the last 3 years.

This is mainly an update for TTI members however for the rest of my team present and past it will serve as an update as to what’s been going on and where we are headed from here.

Even for current TTI members I encourage you to read all the way to the end. The logic behind what we are doing here, and the history behind it, is important to understand for shaping your brand (and conversations) going forward.

I have had numerous inquiries over the last few weeks from people along the lines of:

“So Jeff, rumor is you’ve fixed what’s broken with the whole ‘make money on the Internet’ thing… Is that true? If so, how?”

Well it’s a more involved question than I can tackle in one email but the short answer is yes, we have assembled what I believe is the most complete system for creating that fabled “rising tide” that we hear so much talk about (but haven’t seen anywhere online for the last 2 years).

The reasons for this come down to understanding a few fundamental changes that have happened online in the last year or two and being willing to meaningfully adapt the way a marketing system works tot he new paradigms. This unfortunately is not something many marketing systems were willing to do since these companies had sunk so much money and brand equity into technology that worked in certain ways and instructional content that taught these ways.

A few examples:

  • Reliance on replicated sites – I discuss this more later in this email but basically while there is still some merit to an individual using a “replicated site” to promote an offer to their own list or through some privately-known alternative traffic source, as a general principle for building a marketing system that supposedly offers widespread promise the replicated site is dead.

    Period.

    When a quick Alexa search of the 100 largest websites on the Internet reveals 90+ sites that do not accept advertising that points to replicated site you know the Internet tide has turned against “carbon copy” style marketing and any system that makes this the core of their marketing approach is in denial.

    TopTierIncome.com takes a completely different approach… one that dovetails into the next paradigm shift in online marketing:

  • To become a truly self-sufficient entrepreneur (and really tap into the massive ’7 figure’ promise that the Internet holds) marketers will have to learn how to create their own sales funnels. This reality has actually been known for a while but nobody wanted to really admit it due to the widely-held viewpoint that teaching “newbies” to deal with things like web hosting, website design/management, offer creation, copywriting, etc. was a recipe for having a bunch of pissed off people claiming “this is waaay more complicated than I signed up for!”

    And frankly, given the resources most marketing systems are dealing with there was and is a lot of truth to that concern. Building your own sales funnel is a fairly involved process and given how much the “make money online” industry is built around promising “easy” “duplicatable” “carbon copy” methods it would have been undermining to start telling people that this is what they would need to do.

    Unfortunately though for the last two years it has also been dishonest to pretend otherwise… Whether we’ve all been in willfully misleading or simply in denial is splitting hairs… the point is I’m calling BS on the whole “our members are not capable of doing the things we actually do, so let’s teach them to do things that don’t work because they make our business sound easier.”

    (Anyone tried generating home business leads with social media lately? How’d that work out? Exactly. So why is every guru and system out there teaching it as a viable method for lead generation?)

*Note I’m not saying social media doesn’t have a place in an online funnel, but that place is not at the front end lead generation for affiliate or network marketing offers.

And there are a myriad of other ways that things have changed… in a perfect world I’d take a year off and write a book but with the way the Internet is going by the time the book was done we would need another book. Suffice for now to say that TopTierIncome.com not only acknowledges the ways in which the online home business industry looks nothing like it did a year or two ago but we actually have built a new approach that works (instead of sweating bullets of denial as we row upstream and wonder why conversions are down and nobody’s getting results).

We have things like:

  • A Traffic co-op. We work together to get better leads at better prices instead of teaching our members to go compete with each other in the marketplace and drive prices up.
  • A closing system. We don’t try to convince you that we’re gonna turn you into a ‘prospecting’ or ‘closing’ machine. The bottom line is that some people are cut out for phone sales and some people aren’t but rather than sell solutions promising to turn you into the next Tom Hopkins we make you an offer… we’ll close all your high-end sales for you for in exchange for 25% of the commissions. it’s a win-win, especially when you consider that you are currently giving up 100% commission on every sale you’re not making!
  • An easy way for people to build their own funnels. This one’s a biggie. Remember what we said above… for over a year now nobody has wanted to confront the necessity of teaching people to build their own funnels since using widely-available tools to do so (like WordPress, Joomla, Drupal, Squarespace, Blogspot, and other online platforms) was next to impossible. All the systems out there are built for either blogging or content sites, but there was nothing that made it easy to build the range of page and site classes needed to create an online funnel (capture pages, one-time-offer pages, exit pop ups, sales letters, shopping cart pages with upsells, hubsites, jump pages spread through a funnel,multiple domains, etc.) Until now. With the HubOpus website builder system (included with your TTI membership) all these things and more become as easy as checking boxes and clicking buttons. HubOpus is the ONLY content management system (CMS) website platform out there that is built do to the things marketers need to do, without requiring custom programming.
  • Training that is linear and not confusing. With the Internet changing as much as it does other systems seem to have taken the approach that to keep up they need to put out a new training each week on “What’s Working Now”. What’s ironic about this is that it’s a self-perpetuating problem that goes like this:
  1. Current methods aren’t working (or more precisely current methods have gotten too expensive or complex to teach to beginners)
  2. Let’s find something new we can teach
  3. Okay found it, let’s have a training on it
  4. Okay we just showed it to 500 marketers on a webinar
  5. Okay the cost to do what we were doing just quadrupled because 500 people are now competing with us (and each other)
  6. Okay the owner of whatever marketing method just banned us from their platform b/c our members flooded their support with inquiries, half of which were complaining about the wait time or price increases brought on by the recent flood of our members.
  7. Okay find new method
  8. Repeat cycle

Get it? it’s ridiculous. And it all stems from one main problem we alluded to earlier… the traffic sources that DO have enough capacity to accommodate thousands of marketers (like Google, Facebook, YouTube, etc.) require sophisticated, unique, standalone funnels to advertise on and are primarily interested in advertisers who can spend $10K a month or more. So new marketers are left fighting over the scraps of advertising that are still available to them, and whenever some little untapped pocket is identified that does produce steady quality leads it had best be protected or else it will be destroyed as soon as word gets out.

The only question I have is: Why do other “leaders” in this industry not see the value in facing up to the way things are???

Since myself and our team got out of denial and started dealing with things as they are we have seen exponential growth, both in team size and also in sales per team member. We have launched our own system, TopTierIncome.com, which is now seen by those in the know as the best (and perhaps only) way to make real money online for the average person getting started now.

Between the co-op, closing support, website system, and revamped training approach TopTierIncome.com now contains all the pieces needed to deliver on the much heralded “turnkey marketing system” we have all been hearing about for years. And all it took to create it was a willingness to see things as they are and challenge the status quo a bit.

Reminds me of the song by Muse called Knights of Cydonia.

The opening lyrics go:

Come ride with me
through the veins of history.
I’ll show you how God
falls asleep on the job.

And how can we win
when fools can be kings?
Don’t waste your time or
time will waste you.

Translation: The Internet marketing Gods (gurus) have been asleep on the job, appointing fools for kings (trainers) and wasting new marketers’ time learning methods that don’t work or won’t work soon.

Okay, cool. I think I’ve said my peace about all that…

So like I said, if my ideas here strike a chord and you’d like to be a part of the next wave of Internet home business success stories then come join us!

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